"Acceptable" language to specific cultural or ethic groups???

I think it clearly shows how people are just out there LOOKING for racism in every little thing. I'm a White girl just like you & I've been told before that I'm articulate & eloquent AND I've been told I'm attractive. I took it both as a compliments. I never once thought to consider the comments might be condescending. I think the difference here lies in the fact that I was not conditioned since birth to be on the lookout for racism. Unfortunately a lot of Blacks are raised to believe we are still out to get them. Until that kind of conditioning stops then we will continue to have these absolutely ridiculous misunderstandings.